February 13, 2009

Etiquette

You may not know this, but I've been applying for a lot of jobs over the last, well, year, but my eventual point is more relevant to the immediate past. I've been applying for lots of jobs and while I haven't been called for an interview on a single one, I'm thinking that eventually somebody will call and I will need to know how to handle a certain aspect of the experience. And that aspect is this:

If I'm not showing yet, is it inappropriate to not tell the interviewer that I am pregnant?

Your thoughts?

6 comments:

jami said...

I would say it depends on the type of job. if it is a short term job go ahead and tell them but if it is a job you can see yourself staying at for awhile I would wait until they offer you the positon

kbdrgnfly said...

I wouldn't bring it up. Usually an employer will find a way to hire someone 'more qualified' or 'better suited' to the job since they discriminate based on pregnancy. Plus with the number of people who are looking of a job....hire the one who will be out on leave for a couple of months...or hire the one who will be there for the long run....Besides, it isn't uncommon nowadays for people to wait for the first 3 - 4 months are passed before anyone knows they are pregnant.

Soooo if it is a job you want, keep mum until sometime after being hired, just like when you need a job for the short term, but the employer is looking for long term, and then once hired, a few months later oops something comes up and you give your notice....it is similar to that.

There's some nice rambling for you:)

Kristin said...

No, no, no. Do not bring it up. The exception would be if you're applying for a job that requires you to work with chemicals that are known to cause deformities in a fetus or something along those lines. The sad truth - while pregnancy discrimination is illegal, it is rampant and in this economy you do not want that held against you. Obviously my response will change as you start to show (What? Preganant? No, that's not a baby. I'm just really fat...but only in my stomach). But for now I say keep it quiet!

Kristin said...

PS I was not calling you really fat. You know that right? I just wanted to make sure with the irritability and hormones and everything that you didn't take that the wrong way.

Sassy said...

DON"T SAY A WORD. Seriously, they won't hire you if they know you are preggers - course they'll find some other "reason" for it, but... Yeah, don't ask don't tell in this case all the way.

Scenic Pit Stops said...

Thanks guys, that's pretty much what I was thinking. Given my susceptibility to guilt though, I must have needed the reassurance that withholding information isn't really lying. None of this really matters yet anyways, nobody has called for an interview even! It's really discouraging!!!